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Finding a way to rekindle the friendly competition you once had is key. Openly discuss your successes and aspirations in a means that is not overwhelming, but
by qhoxie 18y ago
Finding a way to rekindle the friendly competition you once had is key. Openly discuss your successes and aspirations in a means that is not overwhelming, but rather though-provoking for him. Challenge him in this way to focus on his goals and then develop a path to get there. This doesn't have to be explicit, but highlighting what has helped you and what has hindered you will most likely assist him.
Help him to learn from the mistakes you have made and those of the people around you. Some things take learning from one's own follies, but others can be taught in this way, especially if he looks up to you.
- dmnd 18y agoI agree about the competition. A problem is he seems to be afraid to ask for help now that he is struggling, but when I offer help he declines. I often try to let him know which things lead to my own success and which were distractions, but it's hard to know whether he internalises this advice or just agrees to quickly end the conversation.
- qhoxie 18y agoIf he won't be open with you about it, you might try being less direct. Try to bring it up only in context and make it as implicit as possible. It could just take exposure to positive thoughts on the topic for it to have an effect.