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That sounds great. I’d much prefer adults have an honest conversation than go along with different views of the relationship.
by clintonb 6y ago
That sounds great. I’d much prefer adults have an honest conversation than go along with different views of the relationship.
- jancsika 6y agoEven in the OP's hypothetical that you're responding to, one of the participants lied! We all can surely think of reasons why someone would do that currently with the benefit of conversational ambiguity. And I see no evidence that any of those reasons would go away by making the request for "friendship time" or whatever explicit. In fact, since narcissists clearly exist, adding that level of explicit request to casual conversations could easily make people more mendacious. Compare current blow-off of, "Yeah, narcissist, maybe we can get together for a beer if I ever get a break from my job," to the explicit, "Yes, narcissist, I agree to Zoom twice a month." Nobody's going to want to do the latter, but the narcissist will certainly make the request so an explicit lie is now required in return.