It’s not a mistake if she feels that her personal cost that she needs to invest are too high. You still have a very valid point, the question of where you draw

It’s not a mistake if she feels that her personal cost that she needs to invest are too high. You still have a very valid point, the question of where you draw the line between “these guys are incompetent and I can’t deal with this” vs “I decide to put up with it to make things work” is very individual. You should be careful generalizing the former decision as a mistake.