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The historic reason many religions/societies looked down on divorce is that it left the woman worse off - the man would be able to work and fend for himself but
by geofft 6y ago
The historic reason many religions/societies looked down on divorce is that it left the woman worse off - the man would be able to work and fend for himself but the woman would have few options.
The fact that in out modern world many women (in heterosexual relationships) are the ones who desire to leave, and can reasonably fend for themselves, is pretty novel, and we haven't figured out how to adjust the rest of our social structures to account for it. It is a good thing that women can leave relationships where they're being mistreated and be better off on their own, but it means we need to rethink designs elsewhere in society that were based on the assumption that they wouldn't.
I agree with you about the village mindset, and it's kind of the most robust option. Even ignoring divorce, a parent can be emotionally incompetent at caring for children, and certainly can be called to work (or fight) elsewhere, can get sick and/or die, etc. We should be ensuring children have multiple backup options if their own parents are unavailable for whatever reason.
- treeman79 6y agoMost, not all, Kids with single moms I know have turned into horrible people. Giving them everything they want, making excuses, and Lack of discipline were primary reasons. The friend I know who did well had a strict non nonsense mom.
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- loopz 6y agoMany of the laws and rules of societies in the past and most in the present, have always been about domination and control of women. Even women would join in on this, in order to subjugate younger females to societal order. It can be explained to survive hard times and trials, but is also mostly about injustice and inequality for different traits. Though the females are regarded as assets, they're not allowed agency, freedom and inherent value. This is the history and hurt that is behind most of feminism of today, and there are still remnants in Western societies. Not because the laws and rules today are inherently discriminatory, but the cultural expression still inhibits life for half the population in many cases. I'll leave it as an exercise for the reader what this may mean for BLM.
- loopz 6y agoI can of course back it up past the HN filter: https://duckduckgo.com/?q=laws+against+women&ia=web https://duckduckgo.com/?q=laws+against+women&ia=web