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What would you do if you provide shelter during a downpour to some people? And instead of thanking and trying to integrate (and understand) the way you live in

What would you do if you provide shelter during a downpour to some people? And instead of thanking and trying to integrate (and understand) the way you live in your home, these people start thinking that they own your home and YOU should be the one who should be tolerant of their actions. You even cook food for them and provide them a safe space. They insist on getting particular cuisines and criticize you for being closed-minded if you don't know how to cook individual dishes. They find books in your home which do not align with their thought bubble, so they start tearing them (or burning them). They find rooms which they find do not follow the "correct" architectural patterns, so they proceed to "renovate" your rooms and windows. They see your taste in art absurd, so they take markers and start scribbling over the paintings on the wall. They start forcing you and your relatives to do a particular set of actions because, according to them, that's the "right" way to live. What/When will be your tipping point? (if any). Contrast this to a situation where those people realise the rules of the house, and just change themselves to integrate and live peacefully or realise the failure in doing so and just leave. Will you think that the rules in living my house are somehow "superior" ? Of course no. These are just some set of rules and ideals which makes the most sense for you. There is no value proposition on the superiority of one rule being better than another. Just whatever works for YOU.

pmoriarty 6y ago
"What would you do if you provide shelter during a downpour to some people? And instead of thanking and trying to integrate (and understand) the way you live in your home, these people start thinking that they own your home and YOU should be the one who should be tolerant of their actions." This is a fantasy. The people who "refuse to integrate" are usually marginalized and oppressed, and have no realistic future in the society that insisting that they "integrate". Not to mention that "integration" usually means losing one's own historical, religious, and ethnic identity, from language to customs, which those people in the majority who insist that minorities should integrate would themselves be outraged by if they had to give up their own identities in the same way. People who are all gung-ho about integration rarely have even the faintest idea of what it's like to live long-term as an immigrant or an outsider in a society very different from their own. They think it's a piece of cake to integrate. They should give it a try themselves sometime in a radically different place and see how they like it. Yet many immigrants do just that, if not by the first generation, then in later generations when their children forget the old ways and do anything to fit in, and yet that's not enough for the bigots and xenophobes (ie. nationalists). They have to be of "pure blood" down to the nth generation (especially ironic in the US where virtually everyone descends from immigrants of not so very long ago).
aegis4244 6y ago
If your analogy held true, we would all be here in America imitating a native American culture. My guess is that isn't the culture you are advocating should be adopted by your house guests. Your house rules aren't better than anyone else s. Some people believe that the rights of the individual should come before the rights of any group, because everyone is an individual.

pmoriarty 6y ago

"What would you do if you provide shelter during a downpour to some people? And instead of thanking and trying to integrate (and understand) the way you live in your home, these people start thinking that they own your home and YOU should be the one who should be tolerant of their actions." This is a fantasy. The people who "refuse to integrate" are usually marginalized and oppressed, and have no realistic future in the society that insisting that they "integrate". Not to mention that "integration" usually means losing one's own historical, religious, and ethnic identity, from language to customs, which those people in the majority who insist that minorities should integrate would themselves be outraged by if they had to give up their own identities in the same way. People who are all gung-ho about integration rarely have even the faintest idea of what it's like to live long-term as an immigrant or an outsider in a society very different from their own. They think it's a piece of cake to integrate. They should give it a try themselves sometime in a radically different place and see how they like it. Yet many immigrants do just that, if not by the first generation, then in later generations when their children forget the old ways and do anything to fit in, and yet that's not enough for the bigots and xenophobes (ie. nationalists). They have to be of "pure blood" down to the nth generation (especially ironic in the US where virtually everyone descends from immigrants of not so very long ago).

aegis4244 6y ago

If your analogy held true, we would all be here in America imitating a native American culture. My guess is that isn't the culture you are advocating should be adopted by your house guests. Your house rules aren't better than anyone else s. Some people believe that the rights of the individual should come before the rights of any group, because everyone is an individual.