100% this. I've been working through similar issues in my personal life (complicated by COVID, natch) and what I've come to is that I need to get way better abo

100% this. I've been working through similar issues in my personal life (complicated by COVID, natch) and what I've come to is that I need to get way better about setting clear boundaries and expectations with people I care about. This can be done in a compassionate way, and relationships will be better in the long run even if doing the boundary setting feels hard or mean in the short term.