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>The other unsettling truth is that HN can read this story and come away asking what people could possibly object to in his life story, and why one should belie

>The other unsettling truth is that HN can read this story and come away asking what people could possibly object to in his life story, and why one should believe the spouses (plural) that describe his dark side What's unsettling about thinking that hit pieces on a dead man with quotes from supposed "ex girlfriends" is obnoxious?

ryandrake 6y ago
Yea that’s the first thing I thought. If I wanted to write an honest and fair assessment on someone, I probably would take the stories from ex-girlfriends (or anyone else with a potential ax to grind) with a grain of salt. A lot of us wouldn’t want our biographies to be written by ex’s. Unfortunately the author really didn’t have many more people to interview as the guy was a bit of a loner.
- renewiltord 6y ago
  Sure, but how many of us have exes that would say we beat them? I would be very surprised if even the more acrimonious breakups of mine claimed that I hit them. Pretty sure most of us have never laid a hand in anger on our partners.
  - deeeeplearning 6y ago
    Were there any police reports? Was he arrested for battery? Honestly it's pure hearsay otherwise. We can't really be expected to take the word of jilted ex lovers at face value, sorry.
    - renewiltord 6y ago
      Believe what you want. No one is really trying to convince you, specifically. It's just a human interest story at the end of it. For my part, I find it sufficient for me to conclude this guy hit his girlfriend.
      - deeeeplearning 6y ago
        >It's just a human interest story at the end of it Its really not, it's a "hey let me trash this dead guy for clicks" story. >For my part, I find it sufficient for me to conclude this guy hit his girlfriend. Someone claiming to be your ex sent me a message saying you kill puppies and beat women. That's sufficient for me to believe you abuse women and animals.
StrictDabbler 6y ago
We are all chimpanzees of varying temperament. The internet finds a story like this and spends a month on it. "Good chimp killed? Good chimp killed on hike? Hiking good, hikers good. Must be good victim chimp. How can good chimp have bad thing happen?" Then somebody finds out who the chimp is, and somebody gets a thousand bucks to write "Good chimp not so good. Fought with other chimps. Shouted, got quiet, not share food. Not good chimp die on trail. Bad chimp wander off to die because bad. Sad but ok." That's the natural cycle of news, it's been going on since the press was invented and it's mostly ok. What's frustrating is the internet adding the layer of "Bad chimp? Bad Chimp?! What kind bad chimp? Bad chimp have excuse to be bad? No? Put on list of Villain Chimps! Vvvvvvvvillllainous chimp." Dysfunctional dude didn't do so well with his personal relationships on his way to an early grave. Ok-doke.

ryandrake 6y ago

Yea that’s the first thing I thought. If I wanted to write an honest and fair assessment on someone, I probably would take the stories from ex-girlfriends (or anyone else with a potential ax to grind) with a grain of salt. A lot of us wouldn’t want our biographies to be written by ex’s. Unfortunately the author really didn’t have many more people to interview as the guy was a bit of a loner.

renewiltord 6y ago
Sure, but how many of us have exes that would say we beat them? I would be very surprised if even the more acrimonious breakups of mine claimed that I hit them. Pretty sure most of us have never laid a hand in anger on our partners.
- deeeeplearning 6y ago
  Were there any police reports? Was he arrested for battery? Honestly it's pure hearsay otherwise. We can't really be expected to take the word of jilted ex lovers at face value, sorry.
  - renewiltord 6y ago
    Believe what you want. No one is really trying to convince you, specifically. It's just a human interest story at the end of it. For my part, I find it sufficient for me to conclude this guy hit his girlfriend.
    - deeeeplearning 6y ago
      >It's just a human interest story at the end of it Its really not, it's a "hey let me trash this dead guy for clicks" story. >For my part, I find it sufficient for me to conclude this guy hit his girlfriend. Someone claiming to be your ex sent me a message saying you kill puppies and beat women. That's sufficient for me to believe you abuse women and animals.

StrictDabbler 6y ago

We are all chimpanzees of varying temperament. The internet finds a story like this and spends a month on it. "Good chimp killed? Good chimp killed on hike? Hiking good, hikers good. Must be good victim chimp. How can good chimp have bad thing happen?" Then somebody finds out who the chimp is, and somebody gets a thousand bucks to write "Good chimp not so good. Fought with other chimps. Shouted, got quiet, not share food. Not good chimp die on trail. Bad chimp wander off to die because bad. Sad but ok." That's the natural cycle of news, it's been going on since the press was invented and it's mostly ok. What's frustrating is the internet adding the layer of "Bad chimp? Bad Chimp?! What kind bad chimp? Bad chimp have excuse to be bad? No? Put on list of Villain Chimps! Vvvvvvvvillllainous chimp." Dysfunctional dude didn't do so well with his personal relationships on his way to an early grave. Ok-doke.