"You can read all the dating books you want, but getting in shape is the only thing that works." I don't know my guy. I'm 39, weigh 280lbs at 5'9 but am marrie

"You can read all the dating books you want, but getting in shape is the only thing that works." I don't know my guy. I'm 39, weigh 280lbs at 5'9 but am married to a smart and beautiful women a decade younger than me and 150lbs lighter than me. It's not a sugar daddy thing either, she makes more than I do. Not everyone is shallow and a great sense of humor / shared interests / good personality is more than enough for plenty of people. That said, being fit certainly ups the odds in your favor.