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This is how I've learned to negotiate with my 2 and 3 year olds when they are being intractable and rebellious. They don't like the idea of whatever I'm offeri
by corey_moncure 6y ago
This is how I've learned to negotiate with my 2 and 3 year olds when they are being intractable and rebellious. They don't like the idea of whatever I'm offering them for some reason, but getting them to admit they want "grapes" more than "apples" is enough of a concession that it makes a kind of consensus.
- ARandomerDude 6y ago> negotiate with my 2 and 3 year olds when they are being intractable and rebellious No thanks. It's better say "eat your apples" than to allow them to be disrespectful to their parents.
- triceratops 6y agoInorite? Never negotiate with terrorists /s
- wahern 6y agoI like to say "eat it or I'll beat you purple", loudly and in a crowded restaurant. Then my son and I laugh about it later. A routine we started when he was 4- or 5-years-old after we both watched an old episode of Gunsmoke, "Harper's Blood", where a dying mother enjoined the father to strictly discipline their two boys, worried that one of them might grow up to be like her grandfather, whom she reveals to have been an infamous, murderous outlaw. After the mother dies the erstwhile gentle father steels himself, promising his sons that if they ever disobey him or get into any mischief he'll beat them purple.
- hshshs2 6y agogranting children a small slice of agency isn’t disrespect
- leetcrew 6y agoobedience is not the same as respect. a child who is merely obedient will only follow the rules when there is a plausible means of enforcement.
- ARandomerDude 6y agoObedience is not identical to respect, but it is an important element of a child's respect for their parents. A child who does not obey their parents does not respect their parents.
- ramshanker 6y agoSomewhat nearby. My 2 year old not going to sleep. I say “come sleep with papa”, her default “no with mummy”. And she goes to sleep straight. Ha ha. Good till the trick works.