> It's important to be able to deal with people, and that involves dealing with unhappy people, people who are stressed or at wits end, and so on. It goes both

> It's important to be able to deal with people, and that involves dealing with unhappy people, people who are stressed or at wits end, and so on. It goes both ways. That's a good rule on thumb, provided that the initiator is willing to reflect, take responsibility and repair any damage caused when the receiver indicates that their communication wasn't received well. Or, if the initiator isn't willing to do that, then being able to disconnect peacefully without judgement and further harming the receiver. "I'm sorry for coming across that way" is a pretty simple way to acknowledge the receiver's experience without feeling like you need to change or that it was your fault. It's amazing how much damage to relationships comes not from the initial blow, but rather the insistence that no blow was delivered. Many times I've seen "straight shooters" be received poorly and result to calling their receiver sensitive, etc., rather than accepting that the "straight talk" doesn't work for that person and that neither one of you has done anything wrong, it's just that the two styles aren't working for either of you. Or vice versa when an initiator tries really hard to "soften the blow" with slow, peaceful words when it ends up being more torture for the receiver than just spitting it out with whatever emotion comes with it.