It may be poorly put, but I think there's some truth to it: your most effective strategies for dealing with this kind of abuse are those that involve changes to

It may be poorly put, but I think there's some truth to it: your most effective strategies for dealing with this kind of abuse are those that involve changes to your own behaviors. Trying to solve the problem The Right Way (i.e. at the source) is high effort and low (or no) reward. I don't think advising the pragmatic approach here suggests that abuse is the fault of the abused.