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> that's a moralist, religious-derived, US-centric concern It's a conflict of interest, like an employee sleeping with their boss. It's hard to trust somebody

> that's a moralist, religious-derived, US-centric concern It's a conflict of interest, like an employee sleeping with their boss. It's hard to trust somebody to fairly assess somebody they're sleeping with.

coldtea 6y ago
>It's a conflict of interest, like an employee sleeping with their boss It's only bad if it's part of blackmail or exchange (e.g. for grades, etc). Else, if it's a consentual relation, it's fine just like any other. Lots of employees have had great relationships and marriages and kids with their bosses and vice versa. And even more students and professors had affairs (this will include someone like French President Macron). Humans are humans they don't easily compartmentalize their attraction or sexuality just because some bureaucratic rules say so.
- throwaway201103 6y ago
  I don't think the fact that it sometimes works out well means that it's generally a good idea. Relationships probably end in breakup as often as not, and then you're left in the awkward position of still needing to go to class (or to work) with your ex as your "superior."
  - coldtea 6y ago
    >I don't think the fact that it sometimes works out well means that it's generally a good idea. That it's not generally a good idea is inherent in the "sometime it doesn't work out well" (the complamentary to "it sometimes works out well"). But that's also true for most affairs/relationships, and according to statistics, marriages (if we consider a divorce as "the marriage not working out well"). And it can be awkward, like those. But my point was, it's human, and not some moral issue to condemn a person or a writer's writing for.
- logicchains 6y ago
  >Humans are humans they don't easily compartmentalize their attraction or sexuality just because some bureaucratic rules say so This is exactly my point. Even if the professor and student don't intend it to be a grades-for-sex exchange, it would be hard for the professor to be completely objective, and not unfairly grade that student higher than other students with whom the professor didn't have such a close relationship.

coldtea 6y ago

>It's a conflict of interest, like an employee sleeping with their boss It's only bad if it's part of blackmail or exchange (e.g. for grades, etc). Else, if it's a consentual relation, it's fine just like any other. Lots of employees have had great relationships and marriages and kids with their bosses and vice versa. And even more students and professors had affairs (this will include someone like French President Macron). Humans are humans they don't easily compartmentalize their attraction or sexuality just because some bureaucratic rules say so.

throwaway201103 6y ago
I don't think the fact that it sometimes works out well means that it's generally a good idea. Relationships probably end in breakup as often as not, and then you're left in the awkward position of still needing to go to class (or to work) with your ex as your "superior."
- coldtea 6y ago
  >I don't think the fact that it sometimes works out well means that it's generally a good idea. That it's not generally a good idea is inherent in the "sometime it doesn't work out well" (the complamentary to "it sometimes works out well"). But that's also true for most affairs/relationships, and according to statistics, marriages (if we consider a divorce as "the marriage not working out well"). And it can be awkward, like those. But my point was, it's human, and not some moral issue to condemn a person or a writer's writing for.
logicchains 6y ago
>Humans are humans they don't easily compartmentalize their attraction or sexuality just because some bureaucratic rules say so This is exactly my point. Even if the professor and student don't intend it to be a grades-for-sex exchange, it would be hard for the professor to be completely objective, and not unfairly grade that student higher than other students with whom the professor didn't have such a close relationship.