> I would like to either help or listen, but doing both, when she does not follow up on advice is driving me nuts. So she doesn't follow up on your advice? I g

> I would like to either help or listen, but doing both, when she does not follow up on advice is driving me nuts. So she doesn't follow up on your advice? I get the impression she might be looking for an easy way out. What you ask is, as they say in Spanish, "la pregunta del millón" (the million dollar question). Although I don't have any career advice for you, personally, I wouldn't stress over this kind of situation. If there really isn't anything (immediate) that you can do, be honest and tell her that you can't help her. "If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there."