Even worse is the term "precoiner" (i.e., someone who hasn't "found the light" yet or whatever) which strikes me as about as insulting as saying to someone, "oh

Even worse is the term "precoiner" (i.e., someone who hasn't "found the light" yet or whatever) which strikes me as about as insulting as saying to someone, "oh, you're not gay, you just haven't found the right woman yet"