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the main benefits of OKRs might be transparency and alignment, not having a quantifiable goals. I am dating without much success for more than one and a half ye

the main benefits of OKRs might be transparency and alignment, not having a quantifiable goals. I am dating without much success for more than one and a half years now, and I have yet to meet someone who might be open to build something together. I regularly spend money on platforms like tinder, veggly, okcupid with a hope that despite corona, it might contribute to such a development. Still I did not put much effort in my activities there, as I wantee to keep it playful and not follow up on it as I would with a "real goal". I feel unhappy about my lack of progress in this area and I hope that for this new year, acknowledging it as a committment will help move this forward.

nbzso 6y ago
On this topic I will share my humble observation. Women are mythical creatures, they come and they go. One big lesson in life that I have learned, the only winning strategy is never to overestimate yourself and move quickly when they give you a signal.:) There is one problem in making this a commitment - the outcome is not in your control. There is a limit in projection when other peoples are involved. Note: Don’t use dating apps or services. They are really dangerous. Find other ways to connect.
- swat535 6y ago
  Women are not "mythical creatures" they are humans with their own aspirations, personalities and dreams. You can't lump them in a single category..so perhaps it's my misunderstanding but I'm not sure what you are trying to convey here? Also, can you elaborate on "overestimate yourself" ? I would really appreciate it if you could expand on these points. As for the commitment, I think the point isn't the control the outcome but more keep an eye on your progress, I see it more of a checks and balances.
  - nbzso 6y ago
    Generalisation is just generalisation. It has usage in my view. I cannot elaborate further without making more controversial comments. For me they are mythical creatures because they are the gateway of life, and I have learned with time to listen and be aware for signals in communication. The assumption that I as a men know everything because of my rational and have tangible results is "overestimation". Women are feeling first, they have a different sensitivity and intuition for things. Thats why I love them, they provide meaningful point of view with empathy (wired in biology and very important).
ZephyrBlu 6y ago
If you're serious about dating you need to talk to women, not spend money on dating apps. Commit to striking up a conversation with 10 new women every day. I'm sure that would push you forward a lot.
wortelefant 6y ago
Thanks for the ideas, my post was intended as an example why personal OKRs might be helpful -to align existing efforts, become aware of them and invest time with more care and purpose. I am not looking for dating advice here, nor assumptions about my supposed views on women or my other activities in that area. There is a pandemic going on and my former social life outside is frozen, there were positive and inspiring encounters through dating apps and I even met a few friends there over the years. I am glad that more opportunities to meet new people online are slowly emerging (or more people discover them) such as zoom/gathertown meetups, discord groups etc, even as they can't replace dancing.

nbzso 6y ago

On this topic I will share my humble observation. Women are mythical creatures, they come and they go. One big lesson in life that I have learned, the only winning strategy is never to overestimate yourself and move quickly when they give you a signal.:) There is one problem in making this a commitment - the outcome is not in your control. There is a limit in projection when other peoples are involved. Note: Don’t use dating apps or services. They are really dangerous. Find other ways to connect.

swat535 6y ago
Women are not "mythical creatures" they are humans with their own aspirations, personalities and dreams. You can't lump them in a single category..so perhaps it's my misunderstanding but I'm not sure what you are trying to convey here? Also, can you elaborate on "overestimate yourself" ? I would really appreciate it if you could expand on these points. As for the commitment, I think the point isn't the control the outcome but more keep an eye on your progress, I see it more of a checks and balances.
- nbzso 6y ago
  Generalisation is just generalisation. It has usage in my view. I cannot elaborate further without making more controversial comments. For me they are mythical creatures because they are the gateway of life, and I have learned with time to listen and be aware for signals in communication. The assumption that I as a men know everything because of my rational and have tangible results is "overestimation". Women are feeling first, they have a different sensitivity and intuition for things. Thats why I love them, they provide meaningful point of view with empathy (wired in biology and very important).

ZephyrBlu 6y ago

If you're serious about dating you need to talk to women, not spend money on dating apps. Commit to striking up a conversation with 10 new women every day. I'm sure that would push you forward a lot.

wortelefant 6y ago

Thanks for the ideas, my post was intended as an example why personal OKRs might be helpful -to align existing efforts, become aware of them and invest time with more care and purpose. I am not looking for dating advice here, nor assumptions about my supposed views on women or my other activities in that area. There is a pandemic going on and my former social life outside is frozen, there were positive and inspiring encounters through dating apps and I even met a few friends there over the years. I am glad that more opportunities to meet new people online are slowly emerging (or more people discover them) such as zoom/gathertown meetups, discord groups etc, even as they can't replace dancing.