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Maybe I'm too cynical with regard to today's corporate practices, but what would be next? Maybe weekly tasks can be filed as Jira tickets? Burndown charts for h

Maybe I'm too cynical with regard to today's corporate practices, but what would be next? Maybe weekly tasks can be filed as Jira tickets? Burndown charts for how one's week went? If it works for you, great, but this seems like something I would never want to import into my personal life.

tonymet 6y ago
can we ask what you are doing instead?
- dkdk8283 6y ago
  I agree with parent and I’ll provide my own answer: I live in the moment. A simple but powerful lesson I learned from my pets.
  - ZephyrBlu 6y ago
    How do you manage or work towards long term goals?
    - dkdk8283 6y ago
      I don’t have any.
- noarchy 6y ago
  Good question. I wish I had a more sophisticated answer, but everything I do is fairly low-tech. First, memory: this works for nearly everything in my case. Second, a whiteboard for grocery items, which I update as needed. Third, just keeping momentum going for my goals. For what I might term "loftier" aspirations (diet, fitness, etc), I just make sure I am being consistent. Those things have to be built into your lifestyle, or at least, that is the only way I can get it to work. There was a time, for instance, when I did track my nutrition with a spreadsheet. But after a few months I realized I could manage it all within my head: I had gauged my daily macro needs, and could largely judge by eye, and it has worked for years since. I have tried todo-style apps, as an example of where I have tried a more explicit approach. I find that they are just procrastination and delay lists for me. If I am not actively doing it already, with exceptions, it probably won't be done at all.
- raverbashing 6y ago
  Not bureaucratize my life plans? I keep my objectives in my head. No need to write this kind of thing down and keeping scores of myself. And whatever happens happens. I don't need to bog myself down with some corporate invention.
  - tharkun__ 6y ago
    Couldn't agree more with this (and the OP). Life changes. All the time. What about your plan for Q2/Q3 2020 to finally do that world cruise you had been waiting to do all your life? Riiiiight. Now having some sort of principles you live by and to keep yourself honest maybe write them down somewhere (read The 7 habits of highly successful people), sure. Quarterly goals with OKRs? Sorry that already doesn't work at work as no higher up or HR person ever has used them for good if you ask me. Bringing that to my personal life? Lol? 'Increase happiness of my family by 50% in Q1 2021'? Well duh, I don't need OKRs to know Covid sucks and I should try to make the kids life as normal and happy as I can without trying to even measure happiness. I had no personal OKRs ever and I built a tobogganing hill in the front yard (the slope helps) and I'm working on the skating ring (yes ring, like circles, not hockey rink :)) in the backyard. Yes I was keeping this in my head just fine.
    - texasbigdata 6y ago
      An alternative “system” that unfortunately works with your criticism while still being a system is simply a value aligned “DIDMB” (did I do my best....to say something nice to my spouse? To start the day with clear goals, etc) question list self served at night. A score of “10” on eating well might mean one thing while on PTO and another on a busy travel day where simply not grabbing the king size snickers at the airport convenience store is a massive win. So it’s relative to your ability and to the environment and to where you are that particular day. I personally paid a young teen to call/text me daily with the question list for about a year and tremendously enjoyed it (as in benefited from it). But sorry to agree with you by jamming another system in :)
      - tharkun__ 6y ago
- rufius 6y ago
  Not the parent OP, but for myself... I keep it simple. Choose a couple things to focus on and write those down in my planner (pen and paper). Lately it’s been: - read more books, especially biographies and histories - spend time with my kids - write a blog post or essay once a month Outside that, I don’t get much more specific. Work is already busy enough to juggle. I don’t need another thing to juggle. I’m not interested in forcing that much structure on my time outside work. I try to prioritize simple things that make my family or myself happy.
barrucadu 6y ago
> Maybe weekly tasks can be filed as Jira tickets? I use Trello for a to-do list (https://memo.barrucadu.co.uk/self-organisation.html https://memo.barrucadu.co.uk/self-organisation.html), and have recurring cards for chores - it's very helpful!

tonymet 6y ago

can we ask what you are doing instead?

dkdk8283 6y ago
I agree with parent and I’ll provide my own answer: I live in the moment. A simple but powerful lesson I learned from my pets.
- ZephyrBlu 6y ago
  How do you manage or work towards long term goals?
  - dkdk8283 6y ago
    I don’t have any.
noarchy 6y ago
Good question. I wish I had a more sophisticated answer, but everything I do is fairly low-tech. First, memory: this works for nearly everything in my case. Second, a whiteboard for grocery items, which I update as needed. Third, just keeping momentum going for my goals. For what I might term "loftier" aspirations (diet, fitness, etc), I just make sure I am being consistent. Those things have to be built into your lifestyle, or at least, that is the only way I can get it to work. There was a time, for instance, when I did track my nutrition with a spreadsheet. But after a few months I realized I could manage it all within my head: I had gauged my daily macro needs, and could largely judge by eye, and it has worked for years since. I have tried todo-style apps, as an example of where I have tried a more explicit approach. I find that they are just procrastination and delay lists for me. If I am not actively doing it already, with exceptions, it probably won't be done at all.
raverbashing 6y ago
Not bureaucratize my life plans? I keep my objectives in my head. No need to write this kind of thing down and keeping scores of myself. And whatever happens happens. I don't need to bog myself down with some corporate invention.
- tharkun__ 6y ago
  Couldn't agree more with this (and the OP). Life changes. All the time. What about your plan for Q2/Q3 2020 to finally do that world cruise you had been waiting to do all your life? Riiiiight. Now having some sort of principles you live by and to keep yourself honest maybe write them down somewhere (read The 7 habits of highly successful people), sure. Quarterly goals with OKRs? Sorry that already doesn't work at work as no higher up or HR person ever has used them for good if you ask me. Bringing that to my personal life? Lol? 'Increase happiness of my family by 50% in Q1 2021'? Well duh, I don't need OKRs to know Covid sucks and I should try to make the kids life as normal and happy as I can without trying to even measure happiness. I had no personal OKRs ever and I built a tobogganing hill in the front yard (the slope helps) and I'm working on the skating ring (yes ring, like circles, not hockey rink :)) in the backyard. Yes I was keeping this in my head just fine.
  - texasbigdata 6y ago
    An alternative “system” that unfortunately works with your criticism while still being a system is simply a value aligned “DIDMB” (did I do my best....to say something nice to my spouse? To start the day with clear goals, etc) question list self served at night. A score of “10” on eating well might mean one thing while on PTO and another on a busy travel day where simply not grabbing the king size snickers at the airport convenience store is a massive win. So it’s relative to your ability and to the environment and to where you are that particular day. I personally paid a young teen to call/text me daily with the question list for about a year and tremendously enjoyed it (as in benefited from it). But sorry to agree with you by jamming another system in :)
    - tharkun__ 6y ago
rufius 6y ago
Not the parent OP, but for myself... I keep it simple. Choose a couple things to focus on and write those down in my planner (pen and paper). Lately it’s been: - read more books, especially biographies and histories - spend time with my kids - write a blog post or essay once a month Outside that, I don’t get much more specific. Work is already busy enough to juggle. I don’t need another thing to juggle. I’m not interested in forcing that much structure on my time outside work. I try to prioritize simple things that make my family or myself happy.

barrucadu 6y ago

> Maybe weekly tasks can be filed as Jira tickets? I use Trello for a to-do list (https://memo.barrucadu.co.uk/self-organisation.html https://memo.barrucadu.co.uk/self-organisation.html), and have recurring cards for chores - it's very helpful!