I have found that people who harbour opinions like these usually just aren’t very good at realising how bad they are at what they are doing in the first place.

I have found that people who harbour opinions like these usually just aren’t very good at realising how bad they are at what they are doing in the first place. So they need the niceness to keep the false assumption that they are not that bad. Sometimes the emotional state of the recipient is just a function of how grown up they are.