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Everyone's going to have a rough day from time to time, and then when you interact with them they might be a bit rude. It's much easier to just shug it off, ver

Everyone's going to have a rough day from time to time, and then when you interact with them they might be a bit rude. It's much easier to just shug it off, versus over analyzing how you did something to piss them off.

adkadskhj 6y ago
Well to be clear, i didn't say anything about hyper analyzing yourself. Rather i was saying that for the people in our life whose first action in the safe of frustration is to lash out we should take note of that. And not let their toxicity drag you down. Putting up with toxic people because it's not your fault is not healthy, imo. One bad day does not a toxic person make. edit: Another way to word it is simply: don't underestimate the affect toxic people can have on your life. And fight to not be one (a toxic person) yourself.
- offtop5 6y ago
  You're not 100% wrong, let's just say there's a reason she's always remained just a friend.
  - adkadskhj 6y ago
    I don't feel i'm saying anything controversial haha, so i'd be curious what percent i'm wrong regardless.
    - offtop5 6y ago
      Well, I'll be someone's friend if they're going through a really rough patch. I'll provide emotional support from a distance. But I've been down this road before, and trying to date someone who's not in a stable living situation is never going to end well.
      - adkadskhj 6y ago
        Yea and i think your statement is meaningfully different than what i described - which is to say you're a friend during a _rough patch_, it has an end. However we've all seen people who have "rough patches" repeatedly. It's a never ending rough patch. They're the people who think everyone else is a jerk, but not realizing that maybe _they_ are. Regardless, i think we're in agreement, i just could have worded everything better haha. Carry on friend :)
        offtop5 6y ago
        As a last point. This is more economical, but I've met tons of young adults in their early twenties who simply can't move out since rent is outrageous. The issue here is if your parents are abusive, You're simply screwed. I would never judge someone for having a nasty attitude towards life, towards everything if trapped in that type of situation. At the same time my biggest red flag when it comes to dating is if the person has a stable living situation. If someone's 28 and fights their parents every morning, I don't judge them but I know their mind won't be right for a relationship. Once upon a time, I was going through an eviction and the girl I was dating broke it off for the same exact reason. My mind wasn't in a good place.

adkadskhj 6y ago

Well to be clear, i didn't say anything about hyper analyzing yourself. Rather i was saying that for the people in our life whose first action in the safe of frustration is to lash out we should take note of that. And not let their toxicity drag you down. Putting up with toxic people because it's not your fault is not healthy, imo. One bad day does not a toxic person make. edit: Another way to word it is simply: don't underestimate the affect toxic people can have on your life. And fight to not be one (a toxic person) yourself.

offtop5 6y ago
You're not 100% wrong, let's just say there's a reason she's always remained just a friend.
- adkadskhj 6y ago
  I don't feel i'm saying anything controversial haha, so i'd be curious what percent i'm wrong regardless.
  - offtop5 6y ago
    Well, I'll be someone's friend if they're going through a really rough patch. I'll provide emotional support from a distance. But I've been down this road before, and trying to date someone who's not in a stable living situation is never going to end well.
    - adkadskhj 6y ago
      Yea and i think your statement is meaningfully different than what i described - which is to say you're a friend during a _rough patch_, it has an end. However we've all seen people who have "rough patches" repeatedly. It's a never ending rough patch. They're the people who think everyone else is a jerk, but not realizing that maybe _they_ are. Regardless, i think we're in agreement, i just could have worded everything better haha. Carry on friend :)
      - offtop5 6y ago
        As a last point. This is more economical, but I've met tons of young adults in their early twenties who simply can't move out since rent is outrageous. The issue here is if your parents are abusive, You're simply screwed. I would never judge someone for having a nasty attitude towards life, towards everything if trapped in that type of situation. At the same time my biggest red flag when it comes to dating is if the person has a stable living situation. If someone's 28 and fights their parents every morning, I don't judge them but I know their mind won't be right for a relationship. Once upon a time, I was going through an eviction and the girl I was dating broke it off for the same exact reason. My mind wasn't in a good place.