I found value in learning about my "Mr. Nice Guy" behaviors and doing self-work to overcome them, to the extent I can do so. My nice-guy tendencies did great da

I found value in learning about my "Mr. Nice Guy" behaviors and doing self-work to overcome them, to the extent I can do so. My nice-guy tendencies did great damage to my life. Yet at 61 years of age, many things are wired in so deeply that I'll probably never be able to undo them. I think what you may have seen is a man that wasn't a jerk, but also communicated a (reasonable) lack of concern for how he was viewed by others. "Mr. Nice Guys" are deeply concerned about how they will be seen by others, so there's a lot of self-censoring and manipulation that goes on for them. They also sort-of look to others to figure out what values they should hold and espouse ("Who they should be") rather than trying to determine their values based on what they most deeply believe to be right. Dr. Robert Glover (psychologist) is the go-to guy for anyone interested in more on this.