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>She can't legaly take kids away from him, he has right to demand 50% custody Depends on the state, and not every state is as progressive as one might expect.

jtbayly 6y ago
Progressive ideology is literally the opposite of what you suggest here.
watwut 6y ago
In which states exactly can't both parents demand custody rights?
- poulsbohemian 6y ago
  Here in Washington state, I assure you while you might be able to demand, there are still rules on the books that make a 50/50 split not automatic. Especially if you happen to live in the eastern, more conservative part of the state, the judges here are more sympathetic to "traditional" family values and so are still very much aware of those guidelines. I am not a lawyer, consult a lawyer, but having been through this myself within the past few years, I know very much that even something that should be as obvious as a 50/50 split is not obvious in the eyes of the law. Or said another way - even if he has the legal right, that doesn't mean he necessarily has the budget to fight it. Unfortunately, I found that Might Makes Right is a real thing in family law.
- poulsbohemian 6y ago
  This same general conversation came up here on HN about a year ago - I recall vividly several posters from other states in the east / south US who made the same observations I did, IE: that their states had similar laws on the books still giving favor to a "traditional" child care giver, IE: a female. We passed laws pertaining to homosexual marriage a while ago here in WA and had "domestic partnership" laws before that. I have asked many lawyers since then how the courts would view a divorce situation between two men or two women as in light of these laws that continue to give favor to a "mom". I've yet to get a straight answer, yet somehow the courts are presumably processing divorces for marriages of all types.

jtbayly 6y ago

Progressive ideology is literally the opposite of what you suggest here.

watwut 6y ago

In which states exactly can't both parents demand custody rights?

poulsbohemian 6y ago
Here in Washington state, I assure you while you might be able to demand, there are still rules on the books that make a 50/50 split not automatic. Especially if you happen to live in the eastern, more conservative part of the state, the judges here are more sympathetic to "traditional" family values and so are still very much aware of those guidelines. I am not a lawyer, consult a lawyer, but having been through this myself within the past few years, I know very much that even something that should be as obvious as a 50/50 split is not obvious in the eyes of the law. Or said another way - even if he has the legal right, that doesn't mean he necessarily has the budget to fight it. Unfortunately, I found that Might Makes Right is a real thing in family law.
poulsbohemian 6y ago
This same general conversation came up here on HN about a year ago - I recall vividly several posters from other states in the east / south US who made the same observations I did, IE: that their states had similar laws on the books still giving favor to a "traditional" child care giver, IE: a female. We passed laws pertaining to homosexual marriage a while ago here in WA and had "domestic partnership" laws before that. I have asked many lawyers since then how the courts would view a divorce situation between two men or two women as in light of these laws that continue to give favor to a "mom". I've yet to get a straight answer, yet somehow the courts are presumably processing divorces for marriages of all types.