> Approaching an adult to use leverage to get what you want is tattling, especially when its over "sharing a toy that isn't hers" Very good qualifier that the

> Approaching an adult to use leverage to get what you want is tattling, especially when its over "sharing a toy that isn't hers" Very good qualifier that the toy is not hers. Maybe mention that and that you don't have any authority over their toy. > Learning to become dependent on external intervention for all conflict is not a life skill I want to teach my kids. That is a good thing to have. My knee jerk reaction as having had absolutely no guidance on how to resolve social conflicts where I was say getting bullied to this comment initially was it might be an overuse of "just deal with it", but I realize that was not your intention :)