The book When Anger Hurts changed my life. https://www.amazon.com/When-Anger-Hurts-Quieting-Within/dp/1572243449 https://www.amazon.com/When-Anger-Hurts-Quietin

The book When Anger Hurts changed my life. https://www.amazon.com/When-Anger-Hurts-Quieting-Within/dp/1572243449 https://www.amazon.com/When-Anger-Hurts-Quieting-Within/dp/1... Thesis is that anger is the result of a cascade. Expectations -> Disappointment -> Resentment -> Blame -> Anger (From memory, will update if needed.) So the trick is update one's expectations, short circuit the cascade before it can even start. Separately, I learned that we can only replace habits with new habits, vs unlearn habits. Completely out of ideas, I faked being happy. One day I woke up, said to myself "Phenomenal!", and truly meant it. I was shocked that it worked. My whole transformation took about three years. YMMV. (Maybe having a life coach would work faster.)