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Indeed, growing up my parents banned Super Smash Bros., because the outcomes of matches would sometimes enrage us so much that we would get into fights in real

by umvi 6y ago

Indeed, growing up my parents banned Super Smash Bros., because the outcomes of matches would sometimes enrage us so much that we would get into fights in real life. But that's true for more than just multiplayer video games. Sports come to mind. Basically anything involving intense competition and taunting is going to cause a temporary increase in aggressive behavior.

SV_BubbleTime 6y ago
>Indeed, growing up my parents banned Super Smash Bros., because the outcomes of matches would sometimes enrage us so much that we would get into fights in real life. Personally, my take on this is you were seeing and effect; not a cause. As a kid you MAY have had a common issue expressing loss or disappointment. The game MAY have brought this up, there was always a loser every match. So, your parents MAY have considered this the cause of your inability to properly handle it. I MAY be wrong. I have no idea about you. But that fits ME perfectly. I found the thing that brought me out of that was stressful singular competition, fighting, shooting, chess, performance, etc. Things that you excel on your skill not anything you can blame someone else for. I learned the value in making a plan, executing it, and learning when and why if it didn’t work. Now as an adult, I find myself more ready to deal with stressful things like dogs fighting on walks, medical emergencies, criminal activity, and things I just see other adults completely lock up on. I think this comes from an inability to process loss and stress.
- watwut 6y ago
  > So, your parents MAY have considered this the cause of your inability to properly handle it. 1.) You underestimate how uncomfortable and annoying resulting environment is for everyone in the household. 2.) "My brother and me fought" typically have consistent aggressor and removal of game is often action design to protect the consistent victim. 3.) Removal of game is logical consequence. If parent simply tolerates asshole behavior in that situation, the kid has no motivation to even try self control. It amounts to enabling where parents see issue, but tolerate it and the issue grows and grows.

by umvi 6y ago

SV_BubbleTime 6y ago

>Indeed, growing up my parents banned Super Smash Bros., because the outcomes of matches would sometimes enrage us so much that we would get into fights in real life. Personally, my take on this is you were seeing and effect; not a cause. As a kid you MAY have had a common issue expressing loss or disappointment. The game MAY have brought this up, there was always a loser every match. So, your parents MAY have considered this the cause of your inability to properly handle it. I MAY be wrong. I have no idea about you. But that fits ME perfectly. I found the thing that brought me out of that was stressful singular competition, fighting, shooting, chess, performance, etc. Things that you excel on your skill not anything you can blame someone else for. I learned the value in making a plan, executing it, and learning when and why if it didn’t work. Now as an adult, I find myself more ready to deal with stressful things like dogs fighting on walks, medical emergencies, criminal activity, and things I just see other adults completely lock up on. I think this comes from an inability to process loss and stress.

watwut 6y ago
> So, your parents MAY have considered this the cause of your inability to properly handle it. 1.) You underestimate how uncomfortable and annoying resulting environment is for everyone in the household. 2.) "My brother and me fought" typically have consistent aggressor and removal of game is often action design to protect the consistent victim. 3.) Removal of game is logical consequence. If parent simply tolerates asshole behavior in that situation, the kid has no motivation to even try self control. It amounts to enabling where parents see issue, but tolerate it and the issue grows and grows.