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But sometimes "miss raising" a kid is the right thing to do. This is especially true in a society that has gone awry. Shouldn't I as a parent and who knows my k

But sometimes "miss raising" a kid is the right thing to do. This is especially true in a society that has gone awry. Shouldn't I as a parent and who knows my kids and their needs better than anyone be free to raise them as I see fit?

onecommentman 6y ago
It’s a hard question. You know your child better than anyone, but you don’t own your child nor their future. There are legal expectations for parental behavior at a Societal level, and perhaps informally at a Community level. Is that enough? Always thought a parental/guardian “report card” for those caring for school age children would be a good idea. We measure students and teachers, why not parents? Teachers rate parents on the educational support they provided their children and their teachers. Red/yellow/green, meaningful in child custody case and the like. Just an idea...
- snow_mac 6y ago
  What about single parents? Or parents who work two or three jobs to keep food on the table? My wife is a teacher and regularly deals with parents who are to busy trying to keep food on the table to study with their kids. It's super easy to judge when you make a 6 figure salary and are highly educated. But most families aren't making that kind of coin.
froh 6y ago
If you don't have any 'baggage' then yes, you'll most probably raise your kid just fine. But then: what harm would it do if you'd anyhow participate in a training, that, in said happy case, would just reiterate and reinforce what you'd do anyhow? And has the society possibly gone awry exactly because some common sense in child bearing has been buried? Dunning Kruger tells us we might just not know what we don't know... So, if the curriculum can be freely chosen for the "parental drivers license" what is the problem? There is plenty of research on the outcomes of parental training, btw, one random example of a training that has proven useful: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=brisch+safe&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&u=%23p%3DPPftH-bAw40J https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=bris...

onecommentman 6y ago

It’s a hard question. You know your child better than anyone, but you don’t own your child nor their future. There are legal expectations for parental behavior at a Societal level, and perhaps informally at a Community level. Is that enough? Always thought a parental/guardian “report card” for those caring for school age children would be a good idea. We measure students and teachers, why not parents? Teachers rate parents on the educational support they provided their children and their teachers. Red/yellow/green, meaningful in child custody case and the like. Just an idea...

snow_mac 6y ago
What about single parents? Or parents who work two or three jobs to keep food on the table? My wife is a teacher and regularly deals with parents who are to busy trying to keep food on the table to study with their kids. It's super easy to judge when you make a 6 figure salary and are highly educated. But most families aren't making that kind of coin.

froh 6y ago

If you don't have any 'baggage' then yes, you'll most probably raise your kid just fine. But then: what harm would it do if you'd anyhow participate in a training, that, in said happy case, would just reiterate and reinforce what you'd do anyhow? And has the society possibly gone awry exactly because some common sense in child bearing has been buried? Dunning Kruger tells us we might just not know what we don't know... So, if the curriculum can be freely chosen for the "parental drivers license" what is the problem? There is plenty of research on the outcomes of parental training, btw, one random example of a training that has proven useful: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=brisch+safe&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&u=%23p%3DPPftH-bAw40J https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=bris...