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Gratitude is a skill anyone can learn. Accepting compliments is also a skill that anyone can learn. But, both of them take practice. It's okay to feel uncomfort

Gratitude is a skill anyone can learn. Accepting compliments is also a skill that anyone can learn. But, both of them take practice. It's okay to feel uncomfortable with something, that doesn't necessarily mean that it's wrong. Sometimes we're just uncomfortable with something because it's not something we've had a lot of experience with.

yiyus 6y ago
Expressing gratitude and accepting compliments are nice skills to have, but making of it a public show is just bad taste, IMO.
- cacois 6y ago
  Of course you are entitled to your opinion, but "praise in public, punish in private" is a saying for a reason. Praise is more effective in public, and praising one person on the team publicly benefits the entire team, not just that person.
  - cutemonster 6y ago
    This is more "praise in public, when the boss says so, because the boss says so", though?
    - adar 6y ago
      Nothing's stopping you from praising people at other times, is it?
      - warent 6y ago
        Nobody is arguing that. The debate is around whether manufactured public praise is tasteless
        memling 6y ago
        > Nobody is arguing that. The debate is around whether manufactured public praise is tasteless I suppose it can feel that way, but on the other hand forcing oneself to find and appreciate others efforts and good qualities—even if there are perceptibly few of them—can be a good exercise, especially for those of us who are naturally quite critical. While I'd argue that it's a good virtue and intrinsically valuable, the habit is also practically beneficial: people perform better when they're appreciated and recognized; one's ability to form and work with teams is noticeably easier; it's easier to adjust performance and expectations; et c. People often put the cart before the horse when talking about stuff like this. Manufacturing gratitude is doesn't make it less genuine or fundamentally less good.
    - solarengineer 6y ago
      One can praise without the boss having us do so. Really, it’s about noticing and acknowledging good work or behaviour.
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- memling 6y ago
  > Expressing gratitude and accepting compliments are nice skills to have, but making of it a public show is just bad taste, IMO. I wonder if this is a culture or generational difference. I've found my employer's incentives / gestures a bit lackluster compared to simple gratitude. I like working on a team where the members are publicly thankful for their teammates' efforts. Shrute Bucks stink.
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tomc1985 6y ago
Gratitude is great, but forced gratitude is worthless. At what point do things become a circlejerk?
- eyelidlessness 6y ago
  Formal doesn’t mean forced. Milestone events and traditions that involve greater than ordinary recognition is a part of most of humanity. Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, seasonal celebrations. Putting it on the calendar doesn’t mean you’re obligated, it means it’s reserved and valued enough to make formal space for it.

yiyus 6y ago

Expressing gratitude and accepting compliments are nice skills to have, but making of it a public show is just bad taste, IMO.

cacois 6y ago
Of course you are entitled to your opinion, but "praise in public, punish in private" is a saying for a reason. Praise is more effective in public, and praising one person on the team publicly benefits the entire team, not just that person.
- cutemonster 6y ago
  This is more "praise in public, when the boss says so, because the boss says so", though?
  - adar 6y ago
    Nothing's stopping you from praising people at other times, is it?
    - warent 6y ago
      Nobody is arguing that. The debate is around whether manufactured public praise is tasteless
      - memling 6y ago
        > Nobody is arguing that. The debate is around whether manufactured public praise is tasteless I suppose it can feel that way, but on the other hand forcing oneself to find and appreciate others efforts and good qualities—even if there are perceptibly few of them—can be a good exercise, especially for those of us who are naturally quite critical. While I'd argue that it's a good virtue and intrinsically valuable, the habit is also practically beneficial: people perform better when they're appreciated and recognized; one's ability to form and work with teams is noticeably easier; it's easier to adjust performance and expectations; et c. People often put the cart before the horse when talking about stuff like this. Manufacturing gratitude is doesn't make it less genuine or fundamentally less good.
  - solarengineer 6y ago
    One can praise without the boss having us do so. Really, it’s about noticing and acknowledging good work or behaviour.
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memling 6y ago
> Expressing gratitude and accepting compliments are nice skills to have, but making of it a public show is just bad taste, IMO. I wonder if this is a culture or generational difference. I've found my employer's incentives / gestures a bit lackluster compared to simple gratitude. I like working on a team where the members are publicly thankful for their teammates' efforts. Shrute Bucks stink.

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tomc1985 6y ago

Gratitude is great, but forced gratitude is worthless. At what point do things become a circlejerk?

eyelidlessness 6y ago
Formal doesn’t mean forced. Milestone events and traditions that involve greater than ordinary recognition is a part of most of humanity. Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, seasonal celebrations. Putting it on the calendar doesn’t mean you’re obligated, it means it’s reserved and valued enough to make formal space for it.