> I have all the material elements to be healthy and happy but I can't put them together. I often have this same thought. I tend to try and phrase it as "I'm

> I have all the material elements to be healthy and happy but I can't put them together. I often have this same thought. I tend to try and phrase it as "I'm learning to put them together". I don't believe that we can't. > I have many things other people want, but I never find myself sitting back and saying "I'm glad I have this." I always want things I can't have, and it hurts a lot. There is one quick choice you have the power to make here which might help, which is to choose to be grateful about the things you do have. And it's not mutually exclusive. I'm not saying you'll immediately stop striving for more. But while engaging in that striving (which is hard to stop!), you can choose, also, to notice and be thankful for the small things you do already have. Recognise throughout the day the small things that could make you feel grateful if you let them. Just acknowledge those things briefly and try to build a small habit around that way of thinking. For more on this, Google "gratitude journal".