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I don't think people who have escaped environments see them as gone. I think most modern maladaptation is people worrying about the life of younger members of t
by foolmeonce 6y ago
I don't think people who have escaped environments see them as gone. I think most modern maladaptation is people worrying about the life of younger members of their family based on what they know but can't really change.
Even in the example, the father is physically escaped, but I think the patient has an unknown likelihood of repeating patterns of the verbal abuse from their childhood on the next generation and fear of doing that can lead them back to a depression response.
- touisteur 6y agoThat is very insightful - to me at least. The birth of my children has triggered (or made more apparent) lots of depression symptoms I thought I had overcome after a first round of therapy some years back. Turns out it's far worse this time.
- sjg007 6y agoI think one reason for this is we don't have the skills to manage the relationships positively since we grew up in such a hostile environment so when you get stressed it can be easy to repeat the patterns because we know they worked in the past. Those maladaptive strategies were in fact successful! So trying a new strategy is considered risky. This is something therapists can help you with. You learn new ways to communicate and manage these situations AND you get to practice them in a safe place before you need to use them.