There's a scene in Queen's Gambit where one character tells another something along the lines of "I had an alcoholic father. I see your eyes and I know what it

There's a scene in Queen's Gambit where one character tells another something along the lines of "I had an alcoholic father. I see your eyes and I know what it is". Having an alcoholic father myself, I know exactly what that line means. It really is a very specific look, though as you say it's hard to explain to someone.