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> I could have prevented all this my bugging my ex's phone. Why? Because it all happened so suddenly. Everything came down raining without even a hint from my e

> I could have prevented all this my bugging my ex's phone. Why? Because it all happened so suddenly. Everything came down raining without even a hint from my ex. I could sympathize until here. If you can't trust your partner why marry them in the first place? I find it hard to believe there weren't signs of things going wrong before she slapped a case on you.

kumarvvr 6y ago
> If you can't trust your partner why marry them in the first place? There are a lot of nuances here, than just trust before marriage. Many of the marriages are arranged ones, where the families arrange and negotiate the marriage. If the woman is not satisfied with any aspect of the marriage, some of them resort to these tactics to get rid of the husband. Of course, there are those who actually suffer and are rescued by this law, but those are few and far between.
- zapdrive 6y ago
  Exactly. Just for clarity, arranged doesn't mean forced. The woman in almost all cases gives a consent. And if she later regrets, this is the path she chooses instead of just leaving, and her parents usually support her. There are various reasons for choosing this path: 1. Free money. 2. Free sympathy from the society. 3. Feeling of revenge.
  - kumarvvr 6y ago
    In addition to the three above reasons, many choose this path to "clear their name", as in "I am a victim", who deserves a second chance at marriage. Remember that marriages for divorced women are extremely difficult in India. If the woman was separated from the husband, "as a victim", they have a better chance, especially if she is young. However, due to severe misuse of the law, now the situation is such that any woman even as much linked to a court case regarding marriage issues, is effectively shunned from marriage. And this affects genuine victims a lot.
- mola 6y ago
  Well, there you have it. When people are cornered into an impossible situation, they'll do anything to get out.
sbmthakur 6y ago
> If you can't trust your partner why marry them in the first place? People often marry under family and peer pressure. In such cases, trust becomes secondary. And many people realize it late that marriage is first and foremost a legal contract. Everything else comes after that.

kumarvvr 6y ago

> If you can't trust your partner why marry them in the first place? There are a lot of nuances here, than just trust before marriage. Many of the marriages are arranged ones, where the families arrange and negotiate the marriage. If the woman is not satisfied with any aspect of the marriage, some of them resort to these tactics to get rid of the husband. Of course, there are those who actually suffer and are rescued by this law, but those are few and far between.

zapdrive 6y ago
Exactly. Just for clarity, arranged doesn't mean forced. The woman in almost all cases gives a consent. And if she later regrets, this is the path she chooses instead of just leaving, and her parents usually support her. There are various reasons for choosing this path: 1. Free money. 2. Free sympathy from the society. 3. Feeling of revenge.
- kumarvvr 6y ago
  In addition to the three above reasons, many choose this path to "clear their name", as in "I am a victim", who deserves a second chance at marriage. Remember that marriages for divorced women are extremely difficult in India. If the woman was separated from the husband, "as a victim", they have a better chance, especially if she is young. However, due to severe misuse of the law, now the situation is such that any woman even as much linked to a court case regarding marriage issues, is effectively shunned from marriage. And this affects genuine victims a lot.
mola 6y ago
Well, there you have it. When people are cornered into an impossible situation, they'll do anything to get out.

sbmthakur 6y ago

> If you can't trust your partner why marry them in the first place? People often marry under family and peer pressure. In such cases, trust becomes secondary. And many people realize it late that marriage is first and foremost a legal contract. Everything else comes after that.