I've been homeless, lonely and desperate in many ways over many years. I appreciate your comments here. I would add that people who are desperate will drag you

I've been homeless, lonely and desperate in many ways over many years. I appreciate your comments here. I would add that people who are desperate will drag you down like a drowning person. I have been on both sides of this, and I have had to overcome this "total reliance" on others that makes them go away. But, the best advice I have ever gotten (paraphrasing) was "face YOUR problems". It didn't matter what or how they said it. If you don't want things to be better, they never will get better. The problem is that hopelessness _feels_ permanent. I have just gotten where I can be helpful to others after decades, and I am seeing that _extreme_ patience, caring and understanding allow that difficult discussion about change to happen. Keep saying what you are saying. It was people like you that helped me start facing things on my own. Bravo and peace and love to you.