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> Same kind of person who never finds a partner because of the "ceremony around" dating, I guess? If dates were conducted like coding interviews — assuming the

by _qulr 6y ago

> Same kind of person who never finds a partner because of the "ceremony around" dating, I guess? If dates were conducted like coding interviews — assuming the candidate is a liar and forcing them to prove in detail why they're not — you'd never get a second date. A job is supposed to be a voluntary, mutually advantageous relationship between two parties. So interviews ought to be kind of like dating, where you're trying to be as nice as possible and make a good impression. You don't give tests to a date, you just talk to them, get to know them. Employers too often assume that interviews are a one-way street, where the candidate wants the job no matter what and will do anything to get it. On the contrary, the candidate can walk away at any time, and the employer needs to woo the candidate just as much as the candidate needs to woo the employer.

xyzelement 6y ago
>> Employers too often assume that interviews are a one-way street, where the candidate wants the job no matter what and will do anything to get it. On the contrary, the candidate can walk away at any time, and the employer needs to woo the candidate just as much as the candidate needs to woo the employer. I guess I am lucky but I never had (or gave) an interview of the former, so it DID feel like this: "On the contrary, the candidate can walk away at any time, and the employer needs to woo the candidate just as much as the candidate needs to woo the employer." Hence my comment. It sounds like you've interviewed at some shitty places or maybe underappreciated how much power you actually have.
neilv 6y ago
I kinda like this analogy. To take it a bit further, when there ought to be a two-way street, a toxic behavior would be for person A to use some kind of negging, to try to force the dynamic of person B feeling insecure, and seeking A's approval.
philwelch 6y ago
Maybe I’m weird, but I find technical interviews far less stressful than first dates.

by _qulr 6y ago

xyzelement 6y ago

>> Employers too often assume that interviews are a one-way street, where the candidate wants the job no matter what and will do anything to get it. On the contrary, the candidate can walk away at any time, and the employer needs to woo the candidate just as much as the candidate needs to woo the employer. I guess I am lucky but I never had (or gave) an interview of the former, so it DID feel like this: "On the contrary, the candidate can walk away at any time, and the employer needs to woo the candidate just as much as the candidate needs to woo the employer." Hence my comment. It sounds like you've interviewed at some shitty places or maybe underappreciated how much power you actually have.

neilv 6y ago

I kinda like this analogy. To take it a bit further, when there ought to be a two-way street, a toxic behavior would be for person A to use some kind of negging, to try to force the dynamic of person B feeling insecure, and seeking A's approval.

philwelch 6y ago

Maybe I’m weird, but I find technical interviews far less stressful than first dates.