I definitely agree, I've realized that most programming languages store data in a hierarchy (structs within structs) which you then "query" in a very static way

I definitely agree, I've realized that most programming languages store data in a hierarchy (structs within structs) which you then "query" in a very static way with the "." operator. Normalizing data and storing it relationally seems way more flexible for a lot of use cases which is why most databases are relational and not hierarchical. However, I've tried to figure out how to actually store and query data relationally in a language like C++ and haven't been able to figure out a good way. I don't want to use SQLite because of performance, this needs to be close to real time (like a game or something similar). I just want a way to store data relationally in memory in C++. I'm still trying to figure out the right approach here. C++ is very static which makes it difficult. I've been able to figure it out in Javascript though.