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She mentions that someone told her about being “intimidated” by her. Is this really something we shouldn't tell other people or should we work on it? If someon

She mentions that someone told her about being “intimidated” by her. Is this really something we shouldn't tell other people or should we work on it? If someone has a tick accent that I can't understand or uses too much of slang that I cannot interpret without thinking about it or if someone acts as if they are simply a puppeteer of a persona(like if they bring up their identity all the time as if everything is about this persona definition but without personality) I also get very intimidated because I don't know what to expect at my encounters. I may intend to have a quick chat about something technical and it may end up me trying to understand what I did wrong to upset this person. It's not about races or communities or genders, some people are acting as if they try to get upset, they are fishing for a chance to bring up their agenda or make everything about themselves. In cases where there's no stigma to confront this kind of people, you can fight back but when this person is from a community that is ready to make it a big deal, it's really intimidating to confront people that make everything about themselves or their persona. From the way she describes her standing point, I got the impression that she would be one of the people that I would try to avoid.

neilsense 6y ago
The new thing is that 'professionalism' is a "white" thing and so it somehow suppresses other races. Somehow brown people like myself, Asians, hispanics, and most black people don't have an issue with it but for others it's a hill they wish to die on. So now you have to understand slang of about 10 different cultures because speaking correct English is apparently oppressive. Also, being polite and not aggressive is also racist to other cultures, but not really other cultures, just a vocal minority of one culture. It's pathetic and it makes it really hard to Just Get Shit Done.
silicon2401 6y ago
> It's not about races or communities or genders, some people are acting as if they try to get upset, they are fishing for a chance to bring up their agenda or make everything about themselves. Behavior is often determined by incentives. Today one of the quickest ways to get positive attention, affirmation, encouragement, etc is to be a victim. For real victims who would've been stigmatized in the past, like people with mental illness, this is great. However it also means everybody has a low-risk/high-reward incentive to portray themselves as victims in almost any scenario too.

neilsense 6y ago

The new thing is that 'professionalism' is a "white" thing and so it somehow suppresses other races. Somehow brown people like myself, Asians, hispanics, and most black people don't have an issue with it but for others it's a hill they wish to die on. So now you have to understand slang of about 10 different cultures because speaking correct English is apparently oppressive. Also, being polite and not aggressive is also racist to other cultures, but not really other cultures, just a vocal minority of one culture. It's pathetic and it makes it really hard to Just Get Shit Done.

silicon2401 6y ago

> It's not about races or communities or genders, some people are acting as if they try to get upset, they are fishing for a chance to bring up their agenda or make everything about themselves. Behavior is often determined by incentives. Today one of the quickest ways to get positive attention, affirmation, encouragement, etc is to be a victim. For real victims who would've been stigmatized in the past, like people with mental illness, this is great. However it also means everybody has a low-risk/high-reward incentive to portray themselves as victims in almost any scenario too.