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"Tone policing is an ad hominem (personal attack) and anti-debate tactic based on criticizing a person for expressing emotion. Tone policing detracts from the v

• pizza234 6y ago
  Well, yes and no. This isn't a post about, say, lock-free algorithms, which are, in nature, decoupled from human behavior. Her attitude _is_ part of the contention itself; for example, there's mention of a career block because she was perceived as intimidating, there's frequent self-flattery, there's an unprofessional insulting of the employer, and so on. Her position is supposed to be covered by a people's person. Of course, there is also at least one mention of colleagues' behavior that is, I suppose, straight illegal, and this is alarming. As I wrote, verbatim, this supports an impression. I didn't write she's wrong.
• username90 6y ago
  When a person complains in a toxic way about being unfairly fired then I'll believe that they got fired for being toxic rather than whatever thing they want to tell you. It isn't tone policing, it is just common sense. In other words, in this scenario her tone adds extra information, discussing it is therefore not an ad-hominem.
• mam2 6y ago
  Yes but OP is not tone policing to hide the truth. It's literally trying to understand the truth from the messages