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I truly feel bad for you. At the same time I look at my own kids and find that the “want” is often temporary but the result is permanent. Of course they want a

I truly feel bad for you. At the same time I look at my own kids and find that the “want” is often temporary but the result is permanent. Of course they want a puppy but are very unlikely to be able to take care of it properly for 15 years. And the “want” is very much real, they firmly believe it to be their utmost desire. So how do I, as a parent, tell the difference between something they can and cannot take responsibility for, they can or cannot learn to live without?

abellerose 6y ago
I knew when I was around ~7 and that never went away. I don't really think of it like a "want" of a puppy because I had wants like a puppy too and those go away after a few weeks or months in childhood. It's not something like years and years of never going away. Btw, most people don't consider that being denied something like I was and that has life long consequences as way more hurtful while knowing you were right; and others prevented you. Thinking about things in my life I've been wrong about, such events are way less painful because it felt like my fault when people weren't involved by stoping me from what was right. The painful events are when people involved prevent what was right for you. Basically, it's way more awful when you undergo the wrong circumstances because of someone else that prevented what you knew was right instead of undergoing what was wrong by your own mistake. I tried my best to make that not confusing before I go to sleep.
xiphias2 6y ago
Just adopt a puppy from a shelter and give it back when/if the kids get bored of it (maybe even donate them so that they have money to keep the dog). I also wanted a dog when I was a child, my parents didn't let me have it, but now I have living conditions when I wouldn't be able to, so it's too late to have one.
DanBC 6y ago
You see if that desire has been a fixed and constant part of their life since a young age. You check whether they can relieve their distress using any other methods. You check the severity of their distress.

abellerose 6y ago

I knew when I was around ~7 and that never went away. I don't really think of it like a "want" of a puppy because I had wants like a puppy too and those go away after a few weeks or months in childhood. It's not something like years and years of never going away. Btw, most people don't consider that being denied something like I was and that has life long consequences as way more hurtful while knowing you were right; and others prevented you. Thinking about things in my life I've been wrong about, such events are way less painful because it felt like my fault when people weren't involved by stoping me from what was right. The painful events are when people involved prevent what was right for you. Basically, it's way more awful when you undergo the wrong circumstances because of someone else that prevented what you knew was right instead of undergoing what was wrong by your own mistake. I tried my best to make that not confusing before I go to sleep.

xiphias2 6y ago

Just adopt a puppy from a shelter and give it back when/if the kids get bored of it (maybe even donate them so that they have money to keep the dog). I also wanted a dog when I was a child, my parents didn't let me have it, but now I have living conditions when I wouldn't be able to, so it's too late to have one.

DanBC 6y ago

You see if that desire has been a fixed and constant part of their life since a young age. You check whether they can relieve their distress using any other methods. You check the severity of their distress.