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Better people-skills and emotional intelligence would work wonders here, compared to immediately reaching for the hatchet and communicating through demands and
by AppleCandy 6y ago
Better people-skills and emotional intelligence would work wonders here, compared to immediately reaching for the hatchet and communicating through demands and ultimatums. Reflects very poorly on them for their inability, in this case, to start a civil conversation which can be ramped up in so many appropriate ways.
- bonoboTP 6y agoRead the "Toxoplasma of rage" by Scott Alexander or watch the "This video will make you angry" by CGP Grey. No immediately reaching for maximum impactful tools will leave you behind and those who are not so "shy" to use strong words will advance and get more exposure. It's a memetic race. You get more attention for more outrage. Rewards and incentives shape what we see.
- winston_smith 6y agoUnless we decide to consciously work against that tendency, which it's nice to see people doing in this thread.
- bonoboTP 6y agoHN is a special place with extreme focus on avoiding that fate, extreme alertness in moderation day to day, explicit anti-engagement features like cool off periods, no pictures and emojis etc. People who can stand staying on a mostly colorless pictureless site with no memes, are also self selecting to be a tad more thoughtful than social media people.