I mostly agree but to oppose you first paragraph, I have always though that treating one person who behave differently to what it advocates for the other person

I mostly agree but to oppose you first paragraph, I have always though that treating one person who behave differently to what it advocates for the other person as some kind of "ultimate sin" was kind of, i don't know, "naive" or weird, hard to find the exact words. It's usually a better strategy for that person. It'sl ike drugs: it's a good thing it's forbidden, but it's also a good thing it's available to anyone who spend 5 minutes searching for it. The end result is not that bad overall