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I can attest that I am wittier and verbally "quicker" when in a relationship or have more friends. In those cases even when I happen to be alone, I notice thing

I can attest that I am wittier and verbally "quicker" when in a relationship or have more friends. In those cases even when I happen to be alone, I notice things to comment on, and can always find something to say. It's like... how will I remember all these interesting things I've seen or have happened to me and will want to tell my friends or girlfriend. When I'm single and without many friends around, I rather just slide past life. I don't latch onto interesting stuff as much. I have my thought processes and goals and since nobody asks how my day was, there's no point in remembering minor inconsequential stuff. But as you don't need to remember them, you don't even notice them. Like even a mundane task of taking a package to the post will be more of an emotional adventurous roller coaster when I have people in my life and rather a goal-directed straightforward thing when not.

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strogonoff 6y ago
I am a proponent of the theory that our self-perception and consciousness necessarily require others to exist. (More or less, a result of map-building recursion: my brain constructs a map/model of you, which includes my model of your model of me, which includes my model of your model of my model… and eventually a detailed enough concept of “I” emerges.) In other words, assuming that holds, there can’t be “I” if there’s no one else. With that theory in mind, when I experience this “sliding past life” (quite an apt analogy), I actually see it as evidence of myself in some ways becoming less conscious, or at least less self-aware. It’d seem that some don’t experience such a contrast between being social and being alone; I suspect it could be because these maps their minds build have more “inertia” and are used in absence of the “territory” for longer. In a way that must be a nice feature, though on the other hand this might imply that such models aren’t as tightly coupled to reality.

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strogonoff 6y ago

I am a proponent of the theory that our self-perception and consciousness necessarily require others to exist. (More or less, a result of map-building recursion: my brain constructs a map/model of you, which includes my model of your model of me, which includes my model of your model of my model… and eventually a detailed enough concept of “I” emerges.) In other words, assuming that holds, there can’t be “I” if there’s no one else. With that theory in mind, when I experience this “sliding past life” (quite an apt analogy), I actually see it as evidence of myself in some ways becoming less conscious, or at least less self-aware. It’d seem that some don’t experience such a contrast between being social and being alone; I suspect it could be because these maps their minds build have more “inertia” and are used in absence of the “territory” for longer. In a way that must be a nice feature, though on the other hand this might imply that such models aren’t as tightly coupled to reality.