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I was doing this early in my coding career, but after a certain point, I noticed that people kept making mistakes that I already made before and I didn't have t

I was doing this early in my coding career, but after a certain point, I noticed that people kept making mistakes that I already made before and I didn't have the confidence to say anything because I assumed that they knew better and there was probably some other factor that I wasn't smart enough to see. Because of my passive attitude, everyone was getting promoted ahead of me at work and I was forced to code in a way that I knew was incorrect. Projects in my day job working in a bigger team moved at snails pace while my personal open source projects with only a couple of contributors progressed very quickly and the products were higher quality with fewer bugs (even though I had a lot less time to work on them). Now I've become extremely confident (inwardly) but I still struggle to assert myself (outwardly) so my new approach is to steer people towards my ideas in a way that they think it was their own ideas. If only I could have more money, I could afford to be more outwardly confident and I wouldn't have to resort to such pathetic manipulations. When you don't have money, people don't believe their own eyes when they see talent... People believe that money is a measurement of talent. It's even hard to believe your own talent. But beyond a certain point, after many years, you can't keep ignoring the results.

ZephyrBlu 6y ago
> If only I could have more money, I could afford to be more outwardly confident and I wouldn't have to resort to such pathetic manipulations How would money make you more assertive? You can't buy assertiveness.
- ahartmetz 6y ago
  It makes some sense if you look at money as "that's how the points are counted". Which I assume is a strong reason why many rich people want to get richer. But then you can't necessarily see how much money people own, only how much they spend...
- cryptica 6y ago
  If others know that you have money, they're more likely to listen to you. But even if they don't know, money gives you an outward confidence boost because other people in your life who do know that you have money treat you better on average and they respond better to your assertions so this gives you more confidence to assert yourself to new people too and it becomes self-fulfilling.

ZephyrBlu 6y ago

> If only I could have more money, I could afford to be more outwardly confident and I wouldn't have to resort to such pathetic manipulations How would money make you more assertive? You can't buy assertiveness.

ahartmetz 6y ago
It makes some sense if you look at money as "that's how the points are counted". Which I assume is a strong reason why many rich people want to get richer. But then you can't necessarily see how much money people own, only how much they spend...
cryptica 6y ago
If others know that you have money, they're more likely to listen to you. But even if they don't know, money gives you an outward confidence boost because other people in your life who do know that you have money treat you better on average and they respond better to your assertions so this gives you more confidence to assert yourself to new people too and it becomes self-fulfilling.