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The older I get the more I enjoy spending time by myself. I'm not sure its universally a bad thing.

by gehwartzen 6y ago

CubsFan1060 6y ago
I'm amazed I had to read so far to see this. The older I get, the more I realized I don't like people that much.
- onecommentman 6y ago
  I was scrolling down, skimming the comments and figuring out how old each poster was. It was sort of like parents talking about children, except here the children could read, had been parents and were wiser. No one proposing to ask the elders what they might want or need. People pushing political and social agendas tangential to the core issue (surprise, surprise). Sweeping generalizations with no supporting information or, at best, anecdatum (always one datum). Par for the online course, but easier to see when you are the target demographic. Old people, like old trees, become more gnarled and unique as time progresses. Some might say more interesting, some say less useful..check out Taoism for more insight there. Young people are more similar and they look to many others for stimulation because they themselves are...pretty boring. Old people are much more interesting in their own right, and each of their old friends pack ten times the interestingness of a stripling, so far fewer are needed. An old friend or acquaintance brings an order of magnitude or more adult experiences, a multidimensional nature, and the metadata of all the times and places in which they were lived. A young person (<30, maybe 40) is a scalar variable, and you’re lucky if it’s double precision. From a heart standpoint, the older a person gets, the more transpersonal their emotions and energies, in preparation for their next journey. The truly aged are the dawning of the Age of Aquarius, but they aren’t around long enough for the young to realize it. Conditioned love is there, but is “emptying into white”. Best not to muck around too much if you are young, even if you are a family member.
  - gehwartzen 6y ago
    Well put. I actually spent a decent bit of my teen/young-adult years in nursing homes partially because I really enjoy talking to older people. I noticed though that while some were very chatty many were just as happy by themselves. Not that they wouldn't talk if I engaged but they were so comfortable in their own skin that external stimuli had a much lower influence on inner peace. This was in Europe though. I imagine if someone is generally uncomfortable in their later years or has a lot of ailments or diseases that might be different.
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rufus_foreman 6y ago
It's not a bad thing. For those people expressing dismay that us older people prefer to keep to ourselves, get over it. You're not that great. Bring us grandkids, for exactly one day, or stay the hell away.
neilparikh 6y ago
A community where it's easy to meet other people still makes it easy to spend time alone. There's an asymmetry here, which is important to account for when designing environments.

The older I get the more I enjoy spending time by myself. I'm not sure its universally a bad thing.

CubsFan1060 6y ago

I'm amazed I had to read so far to see this. The older I get, the more I realized I don't like people that much.

onecommentman 6y ago
I was scrolling down, skimming the comments and figuring out how old each poster was. It was sort of like parents talking about children, except here the children could read, had been parents and were wiser. No one proposing to ask the elders what they might want or need. People pushing political and social agendas tangential to the core issue (surprise, surprise). Sweeping generalizations with no supporting information or, at best, anecdatum (always one datum). Par for the online course, but easier to see when you are the target demographic. Old people, like old trees, become more gnarled and unique as time progresses. Some might say more interesting, some say less useful..check out Taoism for more insight there. Young people are more similar and they look to many others for stimulation because they themselves are...pretty boring. Old people are much more interesting in their own right, and each of their old friends pack ten times the interestingness of a stripling, so far fewer are needed. An old friend or acquaintance brings an order of magnitude or more adult experiences, a multidimensional nature, and the metadata of all the times and places in which they were lived. A young person (<30, maybe 40) is a scalar variable, and you’re lucky if it’s double precision. From a heart standpoint, the older a person gets, the more transpersonal their emotions and energies, in preparation for their next journey. The truly aged are the dawning of the Age of Aquarius, but they aren’t around long enough for the young to realize it. Conditioned love is there, but is “emptying into white”. Best not to muck around too much if you are young, even if you are a family member.
- gehwartzen 6y ago
  Well put. I actually spent a decent bit of my teen/young-adult years in nursing homes partially because I really enjoy talking to older people. I noticed though that while some were very chatty many were just as happy by themselves. Not that they wouldn't talk if I engaged but they were so comfortable in their own skin that external stimuli had a much lower influence on inner peace. This was in Europe though. I imagine if someone is generally uncomfortable in their later years or has a lot of ailments or diseases that might be different.
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rufus_foreman 6y ago

It's not a bad thing. For those people expressing dismay that us older people prefer to keep to ourselves, get over it. You're not that great. Bring us grandkids, for exactly one day, or stay the hell away.

neilparikh 6y ago

A community where it's easy to meet other people still makes it easy to spend time alone. There's an asymmetry here, which is important to account for when designing environments.