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My grandma sold her house and we used some of the money to convert our garage into an apartment for her so that she could live with our family. Certainly not ev

My grandma sold her house and we used some of the money to convert our garage into an apartment for her so that she could live with our family. Certainly not everyone can do this but living with your parents/grandparents as they get older does seem like a reasonable “fix” to me.

5555624 6y ago
When my father's father passed away, my grandmother sold the house and bought a mobile home, which was put about 50 feet from her daughter's house. (This was in rural Pennsylvania.) It worked out great for more than 30 years. She could be alone, she could be with family.
caymanjim 6y ago
It's nice that you feel this way about your parents and grandparents, but this is a nightmare scenario for me. I hope I die suddenly before I have to rely on anyone else to support me in any way, and if I'm being honest, I hope my own parents go out that way too.
- lotsofpulp 6y ago
  There’s different levels of support. Shopping for groceries or helping your elders do laundry is different than changing their diapers and spoon feeding them. Of course, it depends on the individual’s personalities and whether or not they can accept the compromises of living near or with each other. I would want to commit suicide before I subject my kids or grandkids to permanently doing basic tasks like cleaning up my bodily functions or spoon feeding me, but I certainly don’t mind helping my elders with various tasks every now and then.
- exolymph 6y ago
  Might be best to make the suicide plans now. Do be sure to inform your parents that you'd rather not help them through their elderly infirmity.
  - tripzilch 6y ago
    After all, having made babies entitles them to being cared for. That's the rules. /s
stingraycharles 6y ago
We’re going to be buying a house with my family, mother and her husband in 2021. What struck me as interesting is the responses of my friends to these plans; how much trouble this would cause me, that taking care of your parents is a huge effort, that they would never do this, etc. I consider this attitude a good example of why things are the way they are. But I take pride in going against the norm here.
- megablast 6y ago
  I wonder how your partner really feels about that.
  - stingraycharles 6y ago
    My partner is Asian and she is actually the one who suggested it. It’s very normal in her culture.
- cmdshiftf4 6y ago
  This is a very modern and very North American type attitude to hold tbh, and I'm not convinced the whole "everyone should have their own wage slave shed to themselves far away from their loved ones" isn't as much a marketing trope as "diamonds are a girl's best friend".

5555624 6y ago

When my father's father passed away, my grandmother sold the house and bought a mobile home, which was put about 50 feet from her daughter's house. (This was in rural Pennsylvania.) It worked out great for more than 30 years. She could be alone, she could be with family.

caymanjim 6y ago

It's nice that you feel this way about your parents and grandparents, but this is a nightmare scenario for me. I hope I die suddenly before I have to rely on anyone else to support me in any way, and if I'm being honest, I hope my own parents go out that way too.

lotsofpulp 6y ago
There’s different levels of support. Shopping for groceries or helping your elders do laundry is different than changing their diapers and spoon feeding them. Of course, it depends on the individual’s personalities and whether or not they can accept the compromises of living near or with each other. I would want to commit suicide before I subject my kids or grandkids to permanently doing basic tasks like cleaning up my bodily functions or spoon feeding me, but I certainly don’t mind helping my elders with various tasks every now and then.
exolymph 6y ago
Might be best to make the suicide plans now. Do be sure to inform your parents that you'd rather not help them through their elderly infirmity.
- tripzilch 6y ago
  After all, having made babies entitles them to being cared for. That's the rules. /s

stingraycharles 6y ago

We’re going to be buying a house with my family, mother and her husband in 2021. What struck me as interesting is the responses of my friends to these plans; how much trouble this would cause me, that taking care of your parents is a huge effort, that they would never do this, etc. I consider this attitude a good example of why things are the way they are. But I take pride in going against the norm here.

megablast 6y ago
I wonder how your partner really feels about that.
- stingraycharles 6y ago
  My partner is Asian and she is actually the one who suggested it. It’s very normal in her culture.
cmdshiftf4 6y ago
This is a very modern and very North American type attitude to hold tbh, and I'm not convinced the whole "everyone should have their own wage slave shed to themselves far away from their loved ones" isn't as much a marketing trope as "diamonds are a girl's best friend".