What set of rules are you actually picturing that you think echelon has that they're not applying to themselves? As far as I can tell, the rules they're sugges

What set of rules are you actually picturing that you think echelon has that they're not applying to themselves? As far as I can tell, the rules they're suggesting for singular "they" is that "they/them" can always refer to anybody in the singular, irrespective of their gender. (Maybe unless the person you're referring to indicates a preference otherwise.) Like, maybe this is inconsistent with some set of standard SJW rules that you have in mind. But even if so, I don't see any reason in this conversation to assume that the person you're criticizing is attached to that standard set. (I also don't think there is a standard set at this point.)