Yet another non-female here, but I did stay at home one summer and watched our 18 mo and 4 yo while trying to do some consulting work. It was a nightmare. If yo

Yet another non-female here, but I did stay at home one summer and watched our 18 mo and 4 yo while trying to do some consulting work. It was a nightmare. If you can get in home care, that might, might help. But you would still be better off in a separate building. If you have a cottage, unattached garage, barn, etc, that might help. For me, I had to wait until my wife got home and go to a coffee shop. Then it took 45 minutes for my brain to spin down from its hypervigilant state. I developed tinnitus during those months, and still have it five years later. The central problem is that you can't load big problems into your head. Something will always bring them crashing down. You won't spend half your time watching the kiddo and get half as much done. You'll get 1% as much done.