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'Dark' people don't hide it as well as they'd like. When it becomes clear somebody wants to play the dark game, all the choices become restrictive. Someone who
by friendlybus 6y ago
'Dark' people don't hide it as well as they'd like. When it becomes clear somebody wants to play the dark game, all the choices become restrictive. Someone who has gained a position of authority with those traits is usually not worth challenging because you have to play the influence game in the dark where the rules have likely been implicitly set up against you. Inspiring fear or exhaustion becomes easy.
Light people can choose to play this game, and they can choose to expand into a different space. There's somewhere else to shine your light and it's usually more saistfying to expand elsewhere joyously than influence in the dark with fear.
If 'dark' people display their traits and abilities, it's no longer dark. Immoral choices tend to reduce your options, not give you more.
- sibeliuss 6y ago> 'Dark' people don't hide it as well as they'd like This is what I've observed. They tend to think they're smarter or more clever, and act as such, but really this makes their actions stand out as strange and often quite obvious. A gotcha, however, is that one has to be able to look past their charm, which can often be overpowering and is typically a shield of sorts.
- Viliam1234 6y ago> this makes their actions stand out as strange and often quite obvious. And is there any bad consequence for them afterwards? Because if no, then it simply means they are good at hiding it while they have to, and don't bother hiding it when they no longer have to.
- sibeliuss 6y agoThe consequences are detailed at length in the original post.
- dspillett 6y ago> 'Dark' people don't hide it as well as they'd like. It sometimes works in reverse though. Sometimes people think I'm funny when I would have though I quite clearly meant the unpleasant truth I just blurted out!
- whatshisface 6y agoLaughing can be as much a sign that they got it and are trying to diffuse the inner tension it created in them as it is a sign that the unpleasant truth was actually taken as a joke. Frankly, depending on the tone of the laughter I sometimes take it as a direct statement that I was understood.
- cutemonster 6y agoAn example? Of things you've said? Anonymized I suppose
- whatshisface 6y ago"You really don't want to put anything in this public document that attests to those numbers, or implies that the company will commit to them. Yes, I know that everyone in the company has been swearing on them for months. I also know how they were calculated."
- cutemonster 6y agoThanks :-) made me ... Both smile a bit (i hope you don't mind) and I definitely wouldn't put any of those numbers in the document