Did you even read the article (the OP and the nymag article)? Those articles were nothing about whining or narcissim - it was all about the sense of displacemen

Did you even read the article (the OP and the nymag article)? Those articles were nothing about whining or narcissim - it was all about the sense of displacement and confusion that many 1st gen Asian-americans feel. If you have ever travelled into a foreign place (and preferably some non-Western place - assuming you are from the US), you will get a feel for what displacement feels like. Things look similar to your home, but people behave and act differently in obvious and subtle ways. The things you learnt you could do in the US don't always work in these foreign places. But when you travel, you know it's temporary and you can always go home. For the asian-americans in the article, it's not temporary and they can't go home - they are home, yet 'home' (as they view it through the lens of their parents upbringing) can feel like a 'foreign place'.