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The whinyness and narcissism of these guys completely astounds me. Boo hoo I went to stanford but I don't get to date hot girls. Or FU Im so angry because my pa

The whinyness and narcissism of these guys completely astounds me. Boo hoo I went to stanford but I don't get to date hot girls. Or FU Im so angry because my parents suck and look I date hot girls. Here is some advice - everyone's parents suck in one way or another and you were lucky you werent born in Africa where 30,000 babies die every single day. True happiness comes from within. Not from achievements and not from material possessions.

jasonshen 15y ago
If you're astounded that people who have been given much want more, you haven't been following the trend of CEO pay or the activity on Wall Street or history of human conquest. It is part of human nature to always be wanting more. Leaving the snarkiness aside, you make a great point. It is always worth thinking about how lucky you are and how much worse things could have turned out. There wasn't a place for me to note my appreciation for what I've been given in the article, but know that it exists. My statement about getting after what you want still stands.
- triviatise 15y ago
  My point is that you want the wrong things and when you get them you still wont be happy.
tobtoh 15y ago
Did you even read the article (the OP and the nymag article)? Those articles were nothing about whining or narcissim - it was all about the sense of displacement and confusion that many 1st gen Asian-americans feel. If you have ever travelled into a foreign place (and preferably some non-Western place - assuming you are from the US), you will get a feel for what displacement feels like. Things look similar to your home, but people behave and act differently in obvious and subtle ways. The things you learnt you could do in the US don't always work in these foreign places. But when you travel, you know it's temporary and you can always go home. For the asian-americans in the article, it's not temporary and they can't go home - they are home, yet 'home' (as they view it through the lens of their parents upbringing) can feel like a 'foreign place'.

jasonshen 15y ago

If you're astounded that people who have been given much want more, you haven't been following the trend of CEO pay or the activity on Wall Street or history of human conquest. It is part of human nature to always be wanting more. Leaving the snarkiness aside, you make a great point. It is always worth thinking about how lucky you are and how much worse things could have turned out. There wasn't a place for me to note my appreciation for what I've been given in the article, but know that it exists. My statement about getting after what you want still stands.

triviatise 15y ago
My point is that you want the wrong things and when you get them you still wont be happy.

tobtoh 15y ago

Did you even read the article (the OP and the nymag article)? Those articles were nothing about whining or narcissim - it was all about the sense of displacement and confusion that many 1st gen Asian-americans feel. If you have ever travelled into a foreign place (and preferably some non-Western place - assuming you are from the US), you will get a feel for what displacement feels like. Things look similar to your home, but people behave and act differently in obvious and subtle ways. The things you learnt you could do in the US don't always work in these foreign places. But when you travel, you know it's temporary and you can always go home. For the asian-americans in the article, it's not temporary and they can't go home - they are home, yet 'home' (as they view it through the lens of their parents upbringing) can feel like a 'foreign place'.