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This is a fluff article which might as well be saying "sometimes it rains". The total output of advice in this article are the last two lines: > Very few peop

This is a fluff article which might as well be saying "sometimes it rains". The total output of advice in this article are the last two lines: > Very few people plan or prepare for what they’ll do and how they’ll act during those times. Those who do might well end up turning their worst day into their best. My suggestion for not failing miserably when something goes wrong is to manage one's stress levels. A therapist once said to me "everyone has their breaking point". Her suggestion was don't allow others to place or allocate their stresses on you, especially when you may venerable to taking on other's stresses through codependent behaviors.

system16 6y ago
For work related stress, one thing that I always fall back on when the pressure starts mounting is to to take a deep breath, exhale, and ask myself: "Is [current problem that seems like the end of the world] going to matter in 100 years?" It's never been "yes." It puts it into perspective for me. Mind you I don't work in anything mission critical where lives are at stake, so this wouldn't work for everybody.
- calciphus 6y ago
  Most of the time it won't matter in 5 years even.
sundvor 6y ago
> Those who do might well end up turning their worst day into their best. I'm reading this as if well, perhaps the day didn't go wrong enough? There's SO many other ways to spin a story like that, and understanding that everyone has a breaking point is indeed a very important one. There's something very different between having clarity of mind and hyper focus under fire (the crisis situation at work), and handling multiple life stresses (e.g. family+work conflicts+++) at the same time. I mean, personally I can get a bit of a kick out of the first part - state of flow etc, whereas grinding family demands etc combined with other events that stack up in a cumulative manner is something completely different. To be better at the latter I hit the weights on a regular basis, which helps but does not make one immune.

system16 6y ago

For work related stress, one thing that I always fall back on when the pressure starts mounting is to to take a deep breath, exhale, and ask myself: "Is [current problem that seems like the end of the world] going to matter in 100 years?" It's never been "yes." It puts it into perspective for me. Mind you I don't work in anything mission critical where lives are at stake, so this wouldn't work for everybody.

calciphus 6y ago
Most of the time it won't matter in 5 years even.

sundvor 6y ago

> Those who do might well end up turning their worst day into their best. I'm reading this as if well, perhaps the day didn't go wrong enough? There's SO many other ways to spin a story like that, and understanding that everyone has a breaking point is indeed a very important one. There's something very different between having clarity of mind and hyper focus under fire (the crisis situation at work), and handling multiple life stresses (e.g. family+work conflicts+++) at the same time. I mean, personally I can get a bit of a kick out of the first part - state of flow etc, whereas grinding family demands etc combined with other events that stack up in a cumulative manner is something completely different. To be better at the latter I hit the weights on a regular basis, which helps but does not make one immune.