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Sounds like he was rebelling hardcore against an overly restrictive, maybe typical (?), 1st generation immigrant parent background? "“Ultimately happiness is r
by kepler1 6y ago
Sounds like he was rebelling hardcore against an overly restrictive, maybe typical (?), 1st generation immigrant parent background?
"“Ultimately happiness is really just about enjoying life,” he wrote in the 2010 book..."
This is often what you hear from someone who has doesn't have much of a sense of higher calling, or doesn't quite know what to do with his capabilities other than go for satisfaction in the short term. And leaves you feeling empty and unsure of what your life should be when work evaporates as your sense of self?
- kowsheek 6y agoYou might just be on the money. Having come from a similar background, where the childhood abuse was real and looking back on my life I realize how much of my stress to succeed and achieve was really an attempt to appease/show up my parents. Addiction to work and "bad" habits was all a part of the response to that childhood abuse. Like I wrote in one of my tweets [1], Gabor Mate's work has helped me to see and work towards reworking my relationship to stress. It's unfortunate that Gabor Mate's work isn't part of our conversion around addiction, stress, crime and suicide. [1] https://twitter.com/ksqio/status/1334978112703131651 https://twitter.com/ksqio/status/1334978112703131651
- ciabattabread 6y agoIs there a particular book of Dr. Mate’s that you recommend?
- kowsheek 6y agoBoth "Scattered Minds" and "When the Body Says No" are great. I've found the content on Youtube from his talks very insightful as well. Particularly this series of videos in Scotland starting with https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tef5_HK5Zlc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tef5_HK5Zlc.