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This. One million times. Politeness is not a signal and generally a terrible proxy to figuring out someone's integrity. While most impolite people also aren't h
by rsp1984 6y ago
This. One million times. Politeness is not a signal and generally a terrible proxy to figuring out someone's integrity. While most impolite people also aren't highly ethical in their actions, the reverse (politeness + unethical behavior) is extremely common.
- tomrod 6y agoIt would be wise to separate out politeness, by which I interpret every comment here means patiently assertive, and obsequious, where one is a doormat and butler to all. In that view, is your view of politeness as a bad signal more aligned with obsequiousness or with civil assertiveness?
- ChrisMarshallNY 6y agoIt's very common to mistake courtesy and kindness for weakness. I see it all the time. People get very, very upset, when they find out that I'm not the doormat they had me pegged to be. It's fun, when that happens.
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