This thread was good until you asked a 'why' question. It's a pretty destructive form of communication. If We want to get to the root of our inquiry, please ask

This thread was good until you asked a 'why' question. It's a pretty destructive form of communication. If We want to get to the root of our inquiry, please ask a non-why question. We aren't assuming guilt with anyone, we want a solution to a problem that it seems we both want solved for the majority of the parties involved.